Thursday, May 24, 2007

Creating Effective And Efficient Relationships

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Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security and be long lasting, despite many trials and tribulations.

Building an effective and lasting relationship is a necessity for several reasons. For example, in a group or organization, the well being of the individual people depends on how efficient and effective that group or organization works.

The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the management. Everything and everyone must "gel" together to create the most efficiency and productivity.

An ineffective group or organization can be very frustrating. An effective group or organization can also ask much more of their members.

Sometimes the members end up having no life outside the walls of the area where they work or sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines.

For an organization or group with this kind of scenario, dedication to the mission is high, but relationships can be stressed or suffer. People or other entities that depend upon these groups or organizations will also suffer.

Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better.

In this way, each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be obtained with effective and efficient relationships. Understanding the other parties' feeling and position on a topic creates an effective and efficient relationship.

The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and then actually listen to their answer. Don't just ask them and then not pay attention to what they say! When the other party realizes that you care, they'll feel the importance given to them, their feelings, and their goals.

Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship.

Assuming that the other party understands our needs and will give us what we require, when we need it and without us asking for it, is not good practice and results in miscommunication and puts a strain on the relationship. The relationship will deteriorate rapidly.

Respect is the key to any relationship. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect.

We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to other parties by acknowledging that they are doing everything they can.

The opposite of respect is quick forming of judgments based on unfounded facts and prejudice. Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting yourself as well as respecting others.

Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences with the other party directly. Differences between parties or people are quite interesting.

For example in a conversation where each party listens to the other party, you may observe that each has their own different perspectives.

Everyone has their own opinion and is entitled to it. Just because their opinion doesn't match yours doesn't make them, or you, wrong or right. It just means you see thing differently. Work towards a win-win solution for both parties.

This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is important. That party would then exert extra time, effort and energy to understand the other party's needs and deal with it. Should they fail, it is comforting for that party to know that they at least tried.

Effective listening and not pre-judging are important if parties are to understand each other's needs and thoughts.

Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues and concerns comfortably. They also cause all parties involved to feel more relaxed, allowing them think more clearly.

Develop an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to. When parties fail to express whatever it is that is on their mind, or their feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship.

Some of the negative things found in a relationship include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party's feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.

These things need to be avoided at all cost!

Relationships are important to everyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a necessity to further improve the relationship. As they say; "No man is an island".

As Always ... Make it a GREAT day!

About the Author:

Lou and Robin Bonaventura have been Professional Network Marketers for 4 years. Are you serious about changing your life? Are you motivated and trainable? If so, we want to hear from you right away: request an immediate interview!

Sunday, May 20, 2007

The Spiritual Challenges Of Modern Times

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To grow spiritually in a world defined by power, money, and influence is a Herculean task. Modern conveniences such as electronic equipment, gadgets and tools, as well as entertainment through television, magazines, and the web have predisposed us to confine our attention mostly to physical needs and wants.

As a result, our concepts of self-worth and self-meaning are muddled. How can we strike a balance between the material and spiritual aspects of our lives?

To grow spiritually is to look inward.

Reaching inside ourselves (introspection) goes beyond recalling the things that happened in a day, week, or month. You need to look closely and reflect on your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and motivations.

Periodically examining your experiences, the decisions you make, the relationships you have, and the things you engage in, provide useful insights on your life goals, on the good traits you must sustain and the bad traits you have to discard.

Even more, it will give you clues on how you should act, react, and conduct yourself in the midst of any situation. Like any skill, introspection can be learned; all it takes is the courage and willingness to seek the truths that lie within you.

Here are some pointers when you self-examine your inner being: be objective, be forgiving of yourself, and focus on your areas requiring improvement.

To grow spiritually is to develop your potentials.

Religion and science have differing views on matters of the human spirit. Religion views people as spiritual beings temporarily living on Earth, while science views the spirit as just one dimension of an individual.

Mastery of the self is a recurring theme in both Christian (Western) and Islamic (Eastern) teachings. The needs of the body are recognized but placed beneath the needs of the spirit.

Beliefs, values, morality, rules, experiences, and good works provide the blueprint to ensure the growth of the spiritual being. In Psychology, realizing one’s full potential is to self-actualize.

Achieving each need leads to the total development of the individual. Perhaps the difference between these two religions and psychology is the end of self-development: Christianity and Islam see that self-development is a means toward serving God, while psychologists view that self-development as an end unto itself.

To grow spiritually is to search for meaning.

Religions that believe in the existence of God such as Christianity, Judaism, and Islam suppose that the purpose of the human life is to serve the Creator of all things.

Several theories in psychology propose that we ultimately give meaning to our lives. Whether we believe that life’s meaning is pre-determined or self-directed, to grow in spirit is to realize that we do not merely exist.

We do not know the meaning of our lives at birth; but we gain knowledge and wisdom from our interactions with people and from our actions and reactions to the situations we are in. As we discover this meaning, there are certain beliefs and values that we reject and affirm.

Our lives have purpose. This purpose puts all our physical, emotional, and intellectual potentials into use; sustains us during trying times; and gives us something to look forward to; a goal to achieve, a destination to reach. A person without purpose or meaning is like a drifting ship at sea.

To grow spiritually is to recognize interconnections.

Religions stress the concept of our relatedness to all creation, animate and inanimate. Thus we call other people “brothers and sisters” even if there are no direct blood relations.

Moreover, deity-centered religions such as Christianity and Islam speak of the relationship between humans and a higher being. On the other hand, science expounds on our link to other living things through the evolution theory.

This relatedness is clearly seen in the concept of ecology, the interaction between living and non-living things. In psychology, connectedness is a characteristic of self-transcendence, the highest human need according to Maslow.

Recognizing your connection to all things makes you more humble and respectful of people, animals, plants, and things in nature.

It makes you appreciate everything around you. It moves you to go beyond your comfort zone and reach out to other people, and become stewards of all other things around you.

Growth is a process. So to grow in spirit is a daily encounter. We win some, we lose some, but the important thing is that we learn, and from this knowledge, further spiritual growth is made possible.


As Always ... Make it a GREAT day!

About the Author:

Lou and Robin Bonaventura have been Professional Network Marketers for 4 years. Are you serious about changing your life? Are you motivated and trainable? If so, we want to hear from you right away: request an immediate interview!